Writing Q&A with Jason Howell

Shame, self loathing, conditioning, www.Built4Love.comRecently, I was asked to answer a question on malicious criticism for Jason Howell’s website, Howlarium. The question concerned dealing with and overcoming someone close to you mocking your writing. Not just criticizing, but actively trying to hurt you through your creative endeavors. Fortunately for Jason, and unfortunately for me, I had something to say on the subject.

From reading what other writers had to contribute on the subject, there seems to be a systemic problem of mental abuse from parents, partners, and professors regarding tearing people’s work to shreds, either out of jealousy or through a lack of empathy.

If you are ever put into the situation where someone is asking you what you think of something, don’t flippantly answer, but give the piece, regardless as to what it may be, (a poem or short story, painting, or homemade recipe) and the person the thoughtful respect and consideration they deserve. This goes doubly  if you are dealing with a child. Life is hard enough without having someone we look up to trash something we’ve worked hard on.

Just some food for thought. I invite you to check out the responses to Jason Howell’s question on his site, Howlarium.

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Cynthia Varady

Cynthia Varady

Cynthia Varady is an award-winning freelance writer and co-owner of the book review website, DuelingLibrarians.net. She currently resides in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and son. Cynthia has her BA in English Literature from Sonoma State University, and her Masters in Library and Information Science from San Jose State University. Occasionally, Cynthia can be found voicing characters in casual video games, including Stella in the Aveyond series. She is presently working on a young adult fantasy novel.

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